Wee Sally Therapeutic Massage Clinic is a locally owned business which serves Bathgate and the surrounding West Lothian area. I use regular massage along with exercise, yoga and mindfulness to manage my own pain. I still take daily prescribed pain medication but, in consultation with my GP, I’m gradually reducing the dose of this medication. This holistic approach to managing my pain allows me to live a full and busy life alongside my pain rather than suffering within it. Today I’m talking to Sally Chamness, the owner of the massage clinic.
Sally, the first thing that attracted me to your company was the phrase ‘therapeutic massage’ within the name. Can you take a moment to explain the difference between a massage that I might receive on a spa day compared to the massage I get with yourselves?
When I first opened the clinic in Bathgate, I worked on my own and the skills and work that I preferred to do at that time is what some would consider “functional”. My specialties focused on pain relief and pain management, as well as improving people's stress levels and ability to move freely. Using stretching techniques and movement we try to help our clients improve their day to day lives. This can sometimes feel uncomfortable, although we try to stay within a clients pain threshold. The word 'Therapeutic' creates the image of something more than relaxation, and hopefully helps describe the work that clients can expect from us.
It didn’t take me long before I began to recognise that there was a strong link between my physical and mental health. I noticed that when my anxiety increased so did my level of pain. I’m sure this is something you are well aware of and I wondered if this link impacts on the work you do?
Two years ago I was attending a pain management course at the Astley Ainslie Hospital in Edinburgh. Over the course of ten weeks, I learned a variety of strategies for helping me cope with living with pain. Now, two years on, I'd like to share some of the techniques which I continue to use. But please remember we are all unique, and if you're struggling with pain or anxiety it's important you find the strategies that work for you. Over the next few weeks, I'm going to be interviewing people who have helped me get to where I am now, including a massage therapist and my yoga teacher.
I open the envelope with curiosity and, interestingly, a level of anxiety. Have I set myself targets? What if I'm failing to meet these targets?
I take the letter from the envelope, relieved to see there are no bullet points, no targets, and no list of must-dos. Instead I begin by telling myself how proud I am of what I've achieved over the course so far. That's a surprise.
And now I remember one of the biggest hurdles I had to overcome at the beginning of the course. The expectations I set myself were ridiculously high. I was a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend, a teacher and, like so many other people, I was my own enemy. Until I started attending the pain management clinic I put my own health at the bottom of my list of priorities. This feels like a perfectly normal thing to do, but if we're not careful our own health may suffer and then how can we care for those around us?
In the letter I remind myself that it's okay to accept help from family and friends:
They support you because they love you and want to help you in the same way that you love and care for them - no guilt necessary!
By the time I get to the end of my letter, tears are running down my face. I'm reminded of how difficult living daily with chronic pain was, and how every day it was a battle to put on a smile and face the world. But I hope you notice the past tense in these sentences. Yes, my body still experiences pain and anxiety, but I'm managing to live alongside my pain these days rather than inside it. As I tell myself:
It's not a quick fix or a race; you're in it for the long haul.
My letter finishes with some words of wisdom that I hope anyone reading this can try today:
Be gentle with yourself xx
Emma Mooney is a writer of Scottish contemporary fiction and is the author of A Beautiful Game. and Wings to Fly.